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Learn To Feel Good Newsletter
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Volume I, Issue 6, August 2001
Editor: Maury Adam Sheck, Psy.D., drsheck@learntofeelgood.com
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In This Issue
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1. Welcome from Dr. Sheck!
2. Quotation of the Month
3. Feature Article: I Wish You Enough!
4. Think Again!
5. Who is Dr. Sheck?
6. Classified Ads
7. Subscription Management
8. Contact Information
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1. Welcome from Dr. Sheck!
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Welcome to the sixth issue of the Learn To Feel Good Newsletter!
Time is certainly seeming to fly this summer. All those projects
that I’ve been meaning to do “during the summer” are calling to
me and the summer feels almost over! Perhaps you are in a
similar position? Time for us all to buckle down and keep to
our commitments.
My commitments are to my health, my spirituality, my family,
my friends and my work. The order is up for grabs, depending
on the day, yet all are important. My “Learn To Feel Good”
workshop, Part I is all about Clarity and Commitment, as the
recent participants have learned.
And, I’m jumping with both size 12 feet into modern times by
offering the “Learn To Feel Good” workshop online! I haven’t
worked out all of the details yet, although my intention is to
present the first online workshop in mid-September. Please
email me with any thoughts or suggestions or interest you
might have about this.
Again, I’d like to welcome and thank all of my new subscribers
As well as the people who have referred them. If you gain
something from this newsletter or the website and find it
valuable in some way, please pass it on to your friends, family
and colleagues around the globe. Just click on that “forward”
button on your email program.
My long-range goal is to increase my subscriber base to 50,000
members by the end of 2001. Please help me in this effort.
Again, thank you for your interest and support. And, in keeping
with this issue’s quotation below, “I wish you enough!”
-Maury Adam Sheck, Psy.D.
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2. Quotation of the Month
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I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear
much bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish enough "Hello's" to get you through the final "Goodbye."
-Family saying from an anonymous story on the Internet
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3. Feature Article: I Wish You Enough!
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It would appear that in life, we have (or at least, I have) this
constant struggle between wanting and having, between hunger and
satiation, between desire and it’s fulfillment. It seems part of the
human condition, another of those polarities, those “tension of the
opposites” situations.
On the one hand, a certain amount of tension, of hunger, of wanting
is required, or we would all turn into giant couch potatoes. On the
other hand, “too much” tension, “too much” wanting leaves us
anxious, obsessed, and sometimes paralyzed and incapable of
functioning “normally.”
Where do we draw the line? When is enough, enough? And when is
enough, too much? An individual choice of course and one that is
ever changing, yet, what kind of support would help us in drawing
our line?
The support I would like to suggest, is one of awareness, of
consciousness, of being grounded and truly knowing ourselves.
When we are connected to ourselves, we can recognize when we’ve
had “enough” in both a material sense as well as an emotional one.
When we are connected to ourselves, and truly within our bodies,
we recognize when our appetite for food has been satiated and when
we are eating to fill another need besides hunger, perhaps an
emotional need. When we are fully grounded, we know when a
material purchase is for our highest good, or simply in service to
our ego.
The tangible, material needs may seem more obvious to us, yet what
about our emotional needs, our feeling states? Have you ever
experienced “too much” of an emotion?
I would suggest that there truly is never “too much” of an emotion.
I would suggest that our way of containing or holding or treating
that emotion may be insufficient, may be “not enough.” And yet,
when we are truly connected to ourselves, we can recognize that
emotion as a signal, flagging one of our needs. And when we
consciously act to meet that need, the emotion ceases to feel like it
is “too much.”
When we are truly connected to ourselves, we will know when we
are in grief, and we will be able to consciously seek support for this.
And when we are fully in our bodies, we recognize when our
grieving process has completed, and we are ready to move on in our
lives. No one else can tell us when this is or what a “reasonable”
time frame is.
Is there such a thing as “too much” anger? Certainly there is much
misdirected anger in the world. And yet if we are honest with our
own anger, we may recognize that it also speaks to one of our
unmet needs. And if we can find a responsible way to meet that
need, the anger may very well subside.
Has any of us ever experienced “too much” love? I don’t mean a
misdirected sense of love that has consumed or overwhelmed us, I
mean “too much” love? Actually, love seems to be that paradox,
which actually grows and increases when we find responsible
expression for it.
So, I would encourage increased self-awareness, increased self-
connection. There are many practices for this, many paths. It is
something I teach in my workshops as well. It is something I am
committed to practicing every day. And so I close this column,
wishing you, enough.
-Maury Adam Sheck, Psy.D.
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4. Think Again!
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Harnessing your thoughts, exercising control over them, is
not as difficult as it might seem. (Neither, for that matter,
is climbing Mt. Everest.) It is all a matter of discipline, it is
a question of intent.
The first step is learning to monitor your thoughts; to
think about what you are thinking about. When you catch
yourself thinking negative thoughts--thoughts that negate
your highest idea about a thing--think again! I want you to
do this, literally.
If you think you are in a doldrum, in a pickle, and no good
can come of this, think again. If you think the world is a
bad place, filled with negative events, think again. If you
think your life is falling apart, and it looks as if you'll
never get it back together again, think again.
You can train yourself to do this (Look how well you've
trained yourself not to do it!).
Neale Donald Walsch, Conversations with God, Book 1
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5. Who is Dr. Sheck?
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After countless years of personal psychotherapy, Dr. Maury Adam
Sheck entered the mental health field himself. His doctorate is in
Clinical Psychology. A bit on the overeducated side, he also has
degrees in Management and Engineering.
He is a licensed Clinical Psychologist (California License PSY15487)
and Clinical Director of the Manhattan Counseling Center in Manhattan
Beach, California. He is a Professor in the Department of Human
Behavior at Ryokan College in Venice, California, teaching the two
year core curriculum in psychology as well as graduate classes in
counseling psychology. In addition he supervises/trains psychology
interns at the Airport Marina Counseling Center in Los Angeles, California.
Dr. Sheck works with individuals experiencing personal and/or career
challenges. His special niche is working with "high-tech" and business
professionals who are successful in business, yet need support in
learning to interact successfully on deeper, more personal levels.
He also has a great deal of experience in career transition issues,
having created a number of businesses. In addition to psychotherapy,
Dr. Sheck conducts business and career “coaching” both face to face
and by telephone. He is the creator of the “Learn To Feel Good” seminar
series which provides tools for “systematically having the life you
want.”
Dr. Sheck is currently President of the Southern California Association
of Imago Relationship Therapists (SCAIRT). Imago Relationship Therapy
(IRT), created by Harville Hendrix ("Getting The Love You Want"), is a
very successful form of couples psychotherapy. Dr. Sheck finds it
extremely satisfying to support couples in working through their
conflicts and distress, and helping them to enhance their relationship.
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6. Classified Ads
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