Dr. Sheck
My mother underwent repeat cancer surgery recently. Her recovery is long, difficult and painful due to her age and prior radiation treatments. It is very depressing for her. Right now I see her biggest problem as depression brought on by what she refers to as "2 steps forward and 3 steps backward."
I know that attitude is incredibly important in cancer recovery. I would appreciate any suggestions for books, websites, or groups focusing on the mental health of a recovering cancer patient. Or, perhaps, just plain old fashion advice on how to keep her spirits up.
SB
SB,
You are absolutely correct, attitude is so very important in cancer recovery. We are only just now beginning to scratch the surface of how critical the mind/body connection is.
The cancer patient who takes control over their own treatment is self-empowered. They make informed choices and are not merely at the mercy of the "Doctor Gods." Having some sense of control in their lives lifts their spirits immensely.
Exercise has been shown to be comparable to cognitive psychotherapy in treating mild to moderate depression. Even walking each day can make a major difference, if your mother is up to it.
Keeping active, being as involved in life as much as possible is also key. Interacting with people, having social/emotional support is important. Contributing to others in some way, moves the patient out of their own depressive self-talk, and gives them a higher purpose for struggling with their disease.
A solid spiritual foundation is also conducive to inner peace, and the will to move forward through the challenges of life, including the physical challenges of cancer.
Don't forget though, that attitude is important, both for you and for your mother. When a cancer diagnosis is made, family members and friends also face emotional trauma. They must deal with their shock, their anger, and their grief. The feeling of responsibility, "I must now take care of my parent, no matter what," may also surface.
There is also anticipatory grief, facing the possible loss in the perhaps not so distant future, of the family member.There is chronic stress from many factors including the possible financial burden. The research indicates that caregivers are three times as likely as non-caregivers to suffer from stress-related symptoms.
The family members, as well as the patient should consider help from a mental health professional or a local support group to deal with these issues.
The Wellness Community is a fabulous source of information and support. They are located in a number of areas around the country, including a center in your vicinity. You may reach them at their website, www.la.wellnesscommunity.org. Please let me know if I can help in any other way.